We do not so much need the help of our friends as the confidence of their help in need." Epicur

"Friends show their love in times of trouble..."
-- Euripides (408 B.C.)

So...Friends huh?
What is with people and the need to USE a friend?
What is it with someone that always takes and when you need it the most they let you down?
What is it that when someone finds a different set of friends they tend to forget who was there for them in the first place?
Is it right to use someone and then dispose of that someone after you don't need the help anymore?

I guess either I am doing something wrong or I keep getting the boot from friends. I guess I am too eager to help. I guess it's in my nature to answer always my cell phone and be there for anyone who needs me. I guess I am meant to be used and then when my help is no longer needed, I get to be disposed of. Why do I keep doing it, I don't know. Why I keep being nice, I don't know.

There is one thing I need to learn: to trust less, to help less and be less than nice. I need to learn to say NO and say I DON’T KNOW. Maybe I will stop being used. I don't ask for help often; but when I ask, you better get ready. Because if you are less ready than when I was for you, I will cut you off from my life. I don't need part time friends. I need full time friends. You get what you offer. If that would be true, I should be getting more than I actually receive. Somehow there is no balance in the shitload you get for all the big loads of good you give.

I am tired of being there for everyone and nobody there for me. I am just tired of people. I am disappointed. I am not asking for much, I only ask to be considered in your plans without you having to ask for permission to do it.

"Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival." CS Lewis

A child, like your stomach, doesn't need all you can afford to give it. Clark Frank

So what if she never taught her daughter the value of the money? So what if she never learned that you can't keep buying stuff for your son while he doesn't care and loses them constantly? Everyone sees their children as their best. But their children see them as well. And if they think that their son or daughter will not learn from their behaviour, they are dead wrong.

So what if someone that has barely money to eat dreams of a vacation? Aren't they allowed to dream? Hey, the emptier the pockets the better the dream right? But why go into a debt you can't afford just to please your child? Where do we start doing too much to please the child and not teaching the child that enough is enough?
Children - saw it today, barely even 5 years old. Daddy bought an expensive toy for the red headed girl - 600$ for an iPad. Parents buy love from their children. Parents stop being parents and start being buddies with their children. They are tired of being parents. They don't want to be called "mom" or "dad". Really? I mean...you are not one, why should they even bother to call you that name right?

Where does respect from your kids come? did you ever wonder that just because you bought that expensive toy, or phone that they just don't need, they don't love you as a parent? They see you getting in debt to buy something you cannot afford because why not you are in the "please my kid" business. What they learn is that money come from a plastic card and not from hard work.

So, what did you do for your kid today? Teach him/her a lesson or give him/her anything they asked for? Before you screw your kid up and let him/her sleep thought their teen years like a bear, wake him/her now and teach them that life is all about making a sacrifice and standing up after a fall. Not everything is given to us. We actually have to work for it.

There is nothing like the razor sharp tongue of a good friend to cut through the lies we tell ourselves.

Well well...so here we go again. MIA for a few months.
I wonder why a friend will ask for your advice. Just to make sure he/she will go the exact opposite way? It's a sort of  sounding board that the echo comes back "distorted"? What is it that people come to you for an advice since they have already their minds made up? Why the lying? And why do I even bother answering those calls, really.
My first instinct when I see someone making a stupid move because they think with what they have between their legs (that applies for both sexes) is to tell them "stop!". Go back. Reassess.Rethink.
But no, I become the enemy because I am trying to point to the obvious...arghhhh...I need to stop myself from doing that.